Failure is temporary – giving up is permanent!

Believe in yourself

I keep a gratitude journal and the little diary I am using this year has some beautiful and uplifting quotes written for each day. Today’s was: –

“Failure is temporary but giving up is permanent.”

It really resonated with me and struck a chord. I am not going to lie, things have been difficult recently. I have found myself preoccupied with financial concerns and worries about my children’s future.

Despite working really hard on lots of projects over the last few months, the money just isn’t coming in at the moment and I have, if truth be known, considered throwing in the towel with my business.

I started to think that perhaps it wasn’t meant to be and that I should just go back to working for someone else in order to be guaranteed a decent income.

Every time I have these thoughts I just want to cry. I know that I would be so unhappy being back in corporate land working 9-5 again. I have worked long and hard to be able to run my own business and it breaks my heart to think I would have to give it all up.

But still the thoughts come in – rationally I need to earn more money and if the business is not providing the income then I will have to look elsewhere. Simple.

Not simple at all. Is earning a decent wage enough reason to make myself unhappy? How would I enjoy the money if I was too sick and stressed from working somewhere I didn’t really want to be?

Emotionally, mentally and spiritually I know that I am fulfilling my life’s purpose by running my business and helping people transform their lives. I know that my training courses are excellent value for money and that they work. Physically, or rather, materially, the business is struggling just at the moment.

I have to have faith that things will come good again. I know I am good at what I do and I know that the work I have put in will pay off soon. I have to hold on to what I believe in and walk my talk now. I have to believe that the universe is an inherently abundant place and that I have more than enough.

It’s hard though to stay upbeat and positive – but perhaps that is my test?!

One of my clients hugged me today and said “I am so glad I found you!” – I almost cried. I had been pondering whether to put out a notice saying the business was closing down and then this happened. I thought about all the people I have helped over the years and all the people who I have served.  It occurred to me that if I closed down the business then I would no longer be able to help those people or anyone else!

My life is amazing and I am really happy to be able to be myself and get paid for what I love to do. I needed the reminder that just because some projects have failed to get off the ground, it doesn’t mean that I should give up.

Failure is a temporary state. If I give up then it makes that state permanent and I do not want to be a permanent failure. I am going to carry on and welcome in all help from the universe in whatever way it comes – perhaps it is time to stop worrying about how it will happen and just trust that it will!

I thought I would share these thoughts with you today. Perhaps you needed to hear this too and it may help you in some way. I would love to hear from you – how do you push yourself forward and keep going when things get tough?

If you would like to learn more about me and my business please visit my website, www.rocksnrituals.co.uk.

 

10 ways to achieve a good work/life balance for small business owners

Image of computer for work life balance

When I was working full time for an employer I used to dream of being my own boss and running my own business. I had the romantic notion in my head that I would set my own schedule and have no stress and no “big brother” watching me. I imagined being able to see some clients, do some work and then have plenty of free time to do what I wanted to do.

Boy did I have a shock when I went self-employed! It is hard work and nobody really tells you about the stress of having to bring in the business and pay all the bills yourself!

I found myself still working on marketing plans and business promotions at midnight, answering client emails or Facebook messages at random times of the day or night, not having any down time where I wasn’t in work mode and to be honest – I was stressed! Not good when I was the stress management counsellor people were coming to see!

It is still one of the best things I ever did though! I have since managed to find a way to run my business effectively and incorporate a healthy work/life balance. I had to take my own advice and learn to walk my talk so I thought I would pop a few pointers down for you to help you manage your time effectively so that you too can achieve a good balance.

Planning is vital!

When you work from home or if you are running a small business then it is vital to plan how you will use your time. If you fail to do this then you run the risk of getting side-tracked and then nothing will get done. It is often helpful to take 10 minutes the night before and work out a rough plan for the next day. I do this each evening and it helps me to sleep because I know I have a plan in place. I also spend some time each morning setting my intention for a positive and smooth running day.

Get out your diary or weekly planner and let’s get started!

1. Set your working hours for the week (and stick to them!)

This is important. As a small business owner who works from home I know the danger of not being disciplined in my working hours. It is really easy to look at my diary and see that I have no clients booked in and then take the day off completely.

Look at the hours you want to set aside for work and put them in your diary. For example – I don’t like to work on Mondays because I work Saturdays so rather than force myself to stick to traditional patterns I decided that Mondays were a non-working day for me. I also wanted to keep Fridays free so that I could do some other non-business tasks that kept my soul happy. I therefore set my working hours as follows: –

Tuesdays 9:30am – 4pm
Wednesdays & Thursdays 9:30am – 9:00pm
Saturdays 9:30am – 5pm

2. Book in the non-negotiable things

We all have things that we need to do such as eat, sleep, play, etc. It is vital that you book these things into your weekly planner, otherwise you will only have work-related items in there and your balance will be off.

So, in my example I don’t start work until 9:30am on the days that I have scheduled for business-related activities. This means that between 6:30am when the alarm goes off and 9:30am when I start work, I can fit in my non-negotiables – my morning bathroom routine, breakfast with my children, the school run and my daily meditation/Reiki practice.

I also ensure that each day I create a lunch break for myself (even if it is only for 20 minutes depending on my client load) and a dinner break if I am working until 9pm. You cannot give from an empty vessel so make sure you take breaks for food and water!

On Mondays, I use the time to help my elderly mum with some shopping, I go to Qi Gong, do my housework, see friends and I plan my weekly business activities so that I know what I am doing the rest of the week. On Fridays I book my personal appointments, go walking or paint. This keeps my soul happy and I allow myself, particularly on Fridays, to be completely out of work mode. Sundays have always been a private day for me and I have often turned down work so that I can dedicate this day for my partner and family.

3. Book in your work to the time that you have available

Look at the things you have on your to do list. What is the most important thing on your list? Note that I said important, not urgent – there is a world of difference between important and urgent.

What is important is seldom urgent and what is urgent is seldom important.

Urgent means that a task requires immediate attention. These are the to-do’s that shout “Now!” Urgent tasks put us in a reactive mode, one marked by a defensive, negative, hurried, and narrowly-focused mindset.

Important tasks are things that contribute to our long-term mission, values, and goals. Sometimes important tasks are also urgent, but typically they’re not. When we focus on important activities we operate in a responsive mode, which helps us remain calm, rational, and open to new opportunities.

Your diary or to do list should therefore be mainly full of the important things.

4. Check that your tasks are in alignment with your mission

Why do you do what you do? What does your business do – who do you serve and what is your mission? It is important that you can clearly answer these questions.

Once you know your mission then look at the things on your to do list – are they in alignment with that mission? In other words do they take you closer to your goals or do they lead you away from them? Make sure you only schedule time in your diary for tasks and projects that help move you towards your goals.

5. Do not plan more than 90 days ahead

It is tempting to try and come up with a plan for your year. I am sure you have heard of people creating their annual business plan or marketing plan. The human mind loses interest if we plan too far ahead. I suggest breaking your year into 4 quarters and setting up quarterly plans.

I create a 90 day plan with an overall outcome that I want to achieve. The outcome must be measurable so that I know I have achieved it so I will often use revenue as a marker. For example I may state that I want an overall outcome of 25% increase in revenue from last quarter.

I then look at my outcome goal and think about what projects or plans that I need to work on in order to achieve it. So in order to increase revenue I may need to create a project to bring in more client appointments. OK, so how can I do that? I then need to think about how to promote myself in order to get more clients through the door – so I may set up a Facebook advertising campaign to promote one of my therapy special offers or I may need to create a new package of services and then work to sell them.

Within each project then I break down the steps that I need to take. This then forms my 90 day plan and I go to my diary and block in the time. If it is not scheduled it won’t get done!

6. Leave buffer time

Make sure that you leave time in your diary for unexpected things. I call this buffer time. Allow up to an hour a day for your buffer – this gives you room to breathe!

For example in my online booking system I make sure there are 15 minutes between each client so that if someone is running late it doesn’t impact my other clients.

I also have two children at school and you never know when you’ll get a call saying one needs to come home for some reason! So always leave some wriggle room in your diary.

7. Eat your frogs first!

If you have difficult tasks or things that you have been putting off then schedule them in for first thing in your working day. This means that you get the unpleasant thing done first and you are then free to focus on the remaining activities in your day.

It is tempting to put these things off but that leads to stress because you know they are waiting for you so be brave – get them done first thing and then you can congratulate yourself on making progress and achieving your goals!

Once you have scheduled in your frogs then you can put in the other important tasks.

8. Set realistic deadlines

It is really easy to fall into the trap of over-promising and under-delivering. Even when you are your own boss – you still have to deliver projects on time and to deadlines. For example – I record monthly podcasts for Natural Health Radio and if I do not schedule the time into my diary to do this then it simply won’t get done. I was also guilty of under-estimating the time it takes to carry out this work. I now set aside one full day each month to do this work plus an extra half day for technical issues. This takes the pressure off because I know I have allowed more than enough time for the job, rather than trying to squeeze it all in to a morning before seeing 5 clients!

Look at what you have identified as important in your list and spend some time working out realistically how long it will take you to complete the work. Larger projects or tasks may need to be broken down into smaller steps so schedule time in your diary for each step. Let’s use my podcast work as an example: –

9:30am-11am – Write the content for the recording/draft the blog
11am-12pm – Record the audio content
12pm-1pm – Edit and polish the podcast for broadcast.
2pm-3pm – Upload the podcast and finalise the blog post
3pm-4pm – Contact Natural Health Radio with the details and schedule the promotional work for the show.

This is better than simply writing “Do Natural Health Radio Pod” in my diary – at least now I know that I have various tasks to do and I have allowed enough time to get them done. If I am ahead of schedule then that is wonderful and I can then perhaps tick something else off my list!

9. Schedule time in your day for email and social media

It is a fact of life that we are slaves to our mobile phones and the constant notification ping. It is therefore vital that you schedule in time to check these things. By creating a specified time in your day where you check your social media and email accounts, you stop losing time elsewhere in your day.

Did you know that each time you switch from one task to another it takes your brain 10 minutes to re-focus? That means if you are working on a client proposal or project and you then check your phone, you’ve lost 10 minutes in addition to the time you have spent looking at your phone. If you then go back to the project and then get side-tracked by an email with a web link to another site then you lose another 10 minutes of focus plus the time you take to look at the link! It is easy to see why we often find our to do list not getting done!

I used to think that I would lose clients if I did not answer their email or Facebook comment immediately. I would be working on the computer doing a blog post or updating online course materials and then my phone would ping. I would jump to check it and then answer the query straight away, often finding that I ended up in an email conversation which took an hour to complete!

I now set aside time to answer client emails each day. I allow myself 10 minutes Facebook checking at lunchtime when I am on a break and before I wrap up for the day I check my emails and respond to all the client enquiries that have come in. This gives me back control and I can end my day knowing that everyone has been answered.

10. Use technology to help you

There is so much technology out there it is easy to get overwhelmed but it is really useful to know what works for your business.

Take a look at your needs – what can you automate and what tools do you need? Where do you store client information and records, what about appointments, emails, website, back-ups and day to day activities? Use technology to help you rather than hinder you!

I have a background in IT so technology doesn’t scare me but at the same time I just want simple, easy to use and free (if possible) tools to help me run my business.

Look at where you are losing most time and start there – for me it was sorting out client appointments. People would text or email rather than ringing and it would often take 3 or 4 emails or texts before an appointment would be sorted out. I have now employed an online booking system for appointments so that clients can be directed there to make their bookings – this frees up my time and it empowers clients to choose appointments at any time. It also sends helpful reminders to clients so it cuts down on no-shows! Win Win!

I also used to feel pressured into answering private messages on Facebook outside of my working hours. I now use Facebook’s “away” option on my business page with an auto-responder so that people are made aware that I am not working at 3 a.m. and therefore can’t answer their message!

Has this helped?

I hope these pointers and ideas will help you to sort out your schedule and in turn make more time for your personal life. Let me know what you struggle with the most – answer a quick question here for me and I’ll use the responses to come up with more help and advice!

 

 

Imagine a life of deep inner peace!

Zen image to find inner peace

Imagine yourself filled with a deep sense of inner peace – every day!

We live in a world full of hustle and bustle, with constant demands for our attention. Our lives are busy, fast-paced and we often feel stressed out. Your challenge each day is to navigate life’s hurdles and try to make the best of what is thrown at you.

What if there was a better way?

What if you could learn how to deal with difficult emotions such as anger or sadness?

What if you could learn how to cope with your fears and worries in order to find a sense of inner peace?

It is so easy to take life for granted. We often focus so much on what we think we lack, that we forget to count our blessings. We sometimes get so wrapped up in the work that we do that we forget to live and we find ourselves on the daily grind – stuck on the hamster wheel of life, a slave to materialism and 21st century technology.

What if you could learn ways to find your joy each day and live in gratitude?

What about making yourself a priority and realising that you are your life’s work – you are NOT your job title – you are a human being not a human doing, so what about learning to simply BE?

How often do you judge other people or yourself?

When was the last time you carried out a random act of kindness for someone without expecting anything in return?

How wonderful would it be to be compassionate to yourself and others each day?

I am a Reiki Master Teacher, registered with The Reiki Guild UK, and I have written a short book on the subject of living in accordance with The Reiki Principles.

Mikao Usui, the founding father of modern day Reiki, tells us to live by these precepts: –

Just for today: –

do not anger
do not worry
be grateful
work hard (on yourself)
be kind to yourself and others

In my short book, called “The Reiki Solution“, I explore these concepts and help explain how you can use them to restore balance to your life. You do not need to know anything about Reiki in order to live by these principles. By working with them every day and by using some of the tips and techniques in my book, you can transform your life and find your inner bliss.

Here are some of the reviews it has received: –

Reiki Solution Reviews
Reviews of The Reiki Solution, available for purchase on Amazon

 

 

 

 

 

Why not give it a try?

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It is my mission to try and help as many people as possible to find their joy and live the life they love.

We all have our own personal story to tell and our own struggles each day. Tell me, what do you need the most help with in your day to day life?

Click here to let me know (it’s a 2 question survey) – thank you!

Namaste

The Art of Getting Stuff Done

Achieve your Goals

For years I have believed that multi-tasking was the way forward. I prided myself on being able to do lots of different things throughout the day and was sure that I was therefore being really productive.

From time to time that worked but when I really took a long hard look at what I was actually achieving each day I had little to show for my hard work.

The multi-tasker in me started back in the days when I was working in an IT environment. There was so much to do and so little time to get it done that you were expected to essentially multi-task your way through the day. I was also a busy mum with two young kids at the time so quite often you would find me working online in my home office trying to write a computer programme whilst having dinner cooking for the kids and watching them while they played.

Now as a self-employed business owner I understand that multi-tasking actually doesn’t work at all!

I keep a journal and on the last day of the year, Saturday 31st December 2016, I sat down to read through it like I do each year. I noticed how I would write down my intentions and the goals I wanted to achieve. I then noticed my distinct lack of focus throughout most of the year. My lack of disciplined action towards those goals.

It was only in the latter stages of 2016 that I realised multi-tasking and task-switching wasn’t working.

Did you know that each time you switch from one task to another that you actually lose 10 minutes? It takes your brain around 10 minutes to get into the task you are currently working on, so if you keep switching between tasks you are losing a lot of time each day.

I discovered that the optimum way to get stuff done was to do ONE thing at a time. It sounds really simple but it takes discipline!

I sat down towards the end of November last year and made a list of the things I would like to complete by the end of December and then I made a list of the things I wanted to get done for January-March 2017. I have learned over the years that if I plan too far ahead then I lose motivation. 2-3 months seems to be the optimum time frame for me when goal setting.

I prioritised the list and created mini-projects for each goal. Within each project I created tasks and then put them in my diary. I began to realise that if I did not schedule the tasks then they simply wouldn’t get done.

The first day was hard! I had decided to work on my new 30 Day Mind Diet programme and only that for the whole day. I knew that I also had other tasks in my list for other projects and that there would be interruptions from social media, emails and texts but I wanted to really focus on getting my set tasks done.

The interruptions were the worst bit – the temptation to stop working and check Facebook notifications or emails was tough! I had to actually turn off the sound on my phone and put it out of sight so I couldn’t see the flashing notification light.

As I wrote my new programme I kept having flashes of creativity and other ideas and the temptation to go and do something about those was over-powering as well. I had to rein myself in and simply write down any thoughts with the promise that I would look at them later.

I, thankfully, had the foresight in my daily planning to allow myself some breaks and some “switching” time. What I mean by that is that I scheduled in the time during my lunch break to check my social media, my emails and my texts. I gave myself permission to do that so that I wouldn’t sit wondering about them all afternoon!

What I found the hardest was to not immediately jump on to something that had come in by email or text. I had a few client enquiries by email so normally I would have dropped everything and got straight back to them. I decided that today would be different. I noted down the people I needed to get back to and I added a task to the end of my day – reply to client emails. I then got back to my original plan.

By the end of the first day of “single tasking” I had almost completed my entire programme. I was ecstatic and it really hammered it home to me that by focusing on one thing at a time you really can get a lot done. The feeling of satisfaction the next day when I finished the tasks on that project was amazing!

By waiting to the end of the day before replying to all the client emails meant that I was able to consolidate the time into half an hour and I answered everyone during this time. If I had stopped working and replied to each email as it came in I would have lost about 50 minutes of time!

So the art of getting stuff done is really simple – be disciplined. Stick to the task at hand until you complete it. If it will take several days to complete then break the task into smaller steps and schedule time for those in your diary.

Schedule time for social media, emails and text checking and at all other times turn off the notifications or remove the phone from your desk to help eliminate temptation.

If you have a mountain of tasks to do then start with the lowest hanging fruit. Get the quick stuff off your list first to give you a sense of achievement. That feeling of satisfaction when you tick things off your list really is a great motivator. Sometimes the lowest hanging fruit is also something you have been putting off for a while – if it needs done then get it done!

Schedule time for planning. If your tasks are not in your schedule then they simply won’t get done. You need to discipline yourself to diary things and then tackle them. Only you can do this – you know you are capable!

When tempted to try and multi-task or switch between tasks, remind yourself that you are losing 10 minutes of time each time you do that. So if you task switch 6 times in a day then you have lost an hour!

Ask yourself where you lose most of your time – for me it was switching between links on the web. I would be working on research for a new health programme and suddenly see a link to another site or another programme and I would then be watching a webinar and signing up for free training for something. Before I knew it 3 hours had passed and not a single bit of writing had been done for my own programme. Not good. I also know that I am still a bit of a slave to the Facebook notification light – I am working on that one!

If you need help in prioritising your tasks or if you would like help simply getting into the right mindset about moving from multi-tasking to single-tasking then please do get in touch!

I would love to hear from you – what works for you when you are working on achieving your goals? Where do you procrastinate or lose time? Is there anything I can maybe help you with?

You can leave a comment below or email me – debibarr@rocksnrituals.co.uk. You can also connect with me on Twitter or Facebook.

Let me know what goals you are setting for the first few months of 2017 and what steps you have taken so far!

 

Reiki School Progress Update!

Reiki Healing Love and Light

As many of you know, I revamped my Reiki training structure earlier this year. I made the training process a more comprehensive programme, giving students private one to one sessions, group sessions and workshops instead of just stand-alone classes.

It has been working really well and I am pleased to say that I have taken several new students through Level 1 and Level 2 training so far. Some of these students are intending to work through to Level 3 next year on the programme which is great!

As a result of the success so far, I am opening up registration again for new students. In January I will be offering a fresh programme for Level 1, with a further Level 2 being made available in March and April 2017.

For anyone who has previously done their Level 2 who wishes to move on to Level 3, the Master training programme will also start in January.

Full details are on the website and I really look forward to welcoming more students on to this lovely training package in the new year.

If Reiki has been calling to you or if you have any questions whatsoever about the programme please get in touch. You can leave a comment below or contact me via the website or Facebook.

Namaste

How to get what you really want

Vision Board

5 steps to getting what you really want!

If you are drawn to this post then you are most likely looking for something in your life. Perhaps you want more money, a loving relationship, more control in your life, better health, weight loss or simply to feel more important.

No matter what it is that you want to achieve, the process is always the same.

Step 1 – Get Clear

What is it that you REALLY want? You need to be specific here. Being vague will only lead to vague results or a lack of progress. For example – rather than saying “I want to lose weight” – be specific – “I want to lose 3lbs by Christmas and then 7lbs by the end of January”. That is a better goal because you can quantify it.

Step 2 – Imagine it

How would it change your life?

Take a moment to look at your goal. If you achieved it, how would it impact your life? How would your life change as a result? You may need to sit with this for a while and really consider the options and the possibilities. Be realistic with how your life may change – do you still want it to happen?

OK visualise it in its entirety. Design a vision board using photos, inspirational quotes and colours to make you feel inspired and empowered to move towards this vision of your ideal life.

Step 3 – Plan it

Decide on the steps you need to take in order to make your dream a reality.

You can do anything you want to do – you just need to take the first step and begin to CREATE. You may not necessarily feel like you are a creative person but we are all capable of creating our lives. You create your own reality every day by the thoughts you have and the way you perceive the world around you. Be creative with your thinking – check in with your inner sat nav and your intuition. You have the power within you to make the changes but you need to take action!

When you make your plan, break your goal down into smaller manageable chunks. If you have lots of goals then pick one and work on it the whole way through rather than switching between several plans.

Step 4 – Take Action!

So you have clearly visualised what you want to achieve and you have broken it down into steps and processes. It is time to put your plan into action. Your actions may be things like researching online, reading self-help books, going to an exercise class, going shopping for healthy food, making an appointment with a financial advisor, booking a relaxation session to help you start from a place of calm … just get started!

Step 5 – Mind your Vibes!

You are giving out an energy vibration 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Your vibration affects you and all those around you, just as you are affected by everyone around you too. When you find yourself stuck in a rut it is easy to get down on yourself and feel negative. This has the effect of attracting more low vibrational energy to you which in turn perpetuates the problem and things seem to get worse.

When working through life changes it is vitally important to stay mindful of the vibe you are giving out. Our world works by resonating to the energy vibe we are transmitting. If we are positive and happy then things seem to go our way and we feel happy and content. When we are down then things get on top of us. There are lots of ways you can keep your energy vibrations up – smile, laugh, play, be creative, connect with your people, get outside, eat healthy food, talk to a friend, relax and unwind!

Want some help?

On Saturday 7th January 2017 I am running a morning dedicated to working with the Law of Attraction and Vision Boards in order to help people get clear on their goals and learn how to manifest them. Together we will work on setting a clear intention for the coming year and then will further break that overall vision down into a 30 day plan to kick start the year. If you would like to come along then please book your place via the website.

If you are not in my local area (Bangor, Northern Ireland) but would be interested in receiving help and advice in this area then please get in touch using the form below. I am currently working on a new suite of services which will deliver results fast for those who are prepared to put the effort in. These services can be delivered remotely as well as in person so distance is no barrier. Leave me your contact details and I will follow up with you within the next few days – no obligation at all just a follow up email!

I’d love to hear from you – let me know what goals and plans you are putting in place for 2017. You can leave a comment below or connect with me via Facebook.

If you have an extra 5 minutes I would also love it if you could answer a few short questions for me in relation to where you find yourself in your life. These questions have been put together to help me design the very best service for my clients so if you could spare a moment to answer them I would be really grateful! You can access the short survey here.

Namaste


Working with Angelic Energy

Guardian Angel helping hand

Working with angels is something that everyone can do. Each of us has our own Guardian Angel who protects and guides us through our human life. Often we talk about our departed loved ones being our guardian angels but angels have never incarnated into human form. Our departed loved ones may choose to become one of our spirit guides but they are not the same as angels.

The word angel is derived from the Greek word “angelos” which means Messenger. Angels are messengers from God and their purpose is to serve, protect and encourage us to grow and expand our spiritual awareness. They are found in all religious texts and you don’t even have to be religious to connect with angels.

Angels radiate pure love and light. You can connect to your angel simply by asking them to come close and make their presence felt. Angels cannot interfere in our lives without our consent so you need to ask your angel to step forward and communicate with you. Angels will communicate through subtle means – they know that if they were to appear in front of us in all their glory we would most likely be too shocked to move! Hearing your angel’s guidance can therefore be difficult to begin with. As humans we want instant gratification and obvious tangible evidence that we are not making things up in our heads. However, angels communicate by using signs such as feathers, an overheard conversation, song lyrics or other subtle things like that.

You can also work with Archangels. Archangels are much more powerful than your guardian angel and they each have their own speciality. If you are interested in angels you will most likely be familiar with Archangel Michael, the protector and Archangel Raphael, the healer. There are many archangels and armies of angels. They are all available to help us with our lives and our health. They encourage us to eat more healthily and take better care of ourselves. They won’t do things for us – we are in ultimate control and they will only guide and suggest or illuminate paths for us to take – it is up to us to recognise the signs and take inspired action.

How to connect with the angels

Meditation

The best way to connect with the angelic realm is through meditation. It helps if you can try and keep to a regular routine in order to establish a clear connection with the angels. You could see it as making an appointment for a chat. You wouldn’t like it if someone made a date with you and then didn’t show up or if they showed up but weren’t interested in listening to you, so bear that in mind when communicating with the angels.

If you can, you should set up a special area where you can go to connect with the angels. It may be an outside space or somewhere inside the house where you won’t be disturbed. You may also find it helpful to put some crystals, angel figurines or feathers on a special table and create your own angel altar.

If you are not used to meditating it can seem like an impossible task to quiet your mind and allow the angels to come close. My advice to you would be to stop trying to silence your mind. Your mind exists so that it can think. Just like cars use the road, your thoughts use your mind. There is no point trying to silence the thoughts just like there is no point trying to run about on the road trying to direct the traffic.

Make yourself comfortable and wear clothing that isn’t tight or restrictive. Take a little while to settle down into your body. Start to notice your breath – you don’t have to breathe in any specific way – just notice how you are breathing. You may find that as you bring your awareness to your breath that it naturally starts to slow down and become deeper but it is OK if it doesn’t.

Your thoughts may appear to run wild for a little while. Don’t get angry or frustrated just notice that they are there. It is sometimes like taming a wild horse. You need to give it plenty of rope and plenty of space and then gradually rein it in. So give your mind the same deal – allow the thoughts to be there. Acknowledge them. You may even like to say to yourself – “Yes, I hear you and I will deal with that later”. You will find that your mind then starts to calm down and you get a bit of space between the thoughts.

With regular practice this process of calming the mind and becoming peaceful will be quicker and your mind will recognise that this is your special time where it has to be quieter than normal. This is all part of the mind training that is required when learning to meditate.

Once you feel calm and relaxed, ask your angels to come close. They cannot intervene in our lives without our consent so you need to ask.

Ask the angels to approach you and make you aware of their presence. You may feel a light breeze, smell a lovely scent or feel a gentle touch. Don’t worry if you don’t feel anything at first – this process can take some time. Angels operate on such a high vibration that we need to raise our vibration in order to communicate effectively.

You can ask your angels for guidance or for healing and then trust that they will do what is needed. At this point you need to simply leave it with them and then be vigilant for signs in your life.

After meditation it is always important to ground yourself, so take time to come back to the physical world. Be aware of your contact with the Earth. Have something to eat or drink. Make sure you are fully present before going about your daily business.

Use Angel Cards

Angel Cards are a wonderful way of making contact with the angels. There are a multitude of different decks available and you should choose one that you like.

You can dedicate the deck if you wish by holding it in your hands and asking that the angels use the cards to give you guidance.

When doing a reading for yourself, take the cards and hold them in your hands for a moment. Ask that your angels come close and provide the answers you are seeking. Shuffle the cards and think of your question (if you have one). Draw a card or more than one if you wish and read the message.

The Angel Cards are easier to use than the Tarot as they have their meanings written on them. The cards will always be appropriate and positive. You will find that the angels will sometimes ensure that you keep getting the same card – usually if they are trying to get your attention!

How angels communicate with us.

Angels communicate in a variety of ways. If we are open enough to receive it, they will communicate directly with us. Some people are naturally clairvoyant and will clearly see angels, others are clairaudient and will clearly hear angels and others are clairsentient and will feel the angels when they are near.

For most of us we need to take time to develop our ability to see, hear or feel the angels as we have come to heavily rely on our 5 physical senses only. In these instances the angels will communicate indirectly. For example, a song may play on the radio that has the message they need to get to you, or a book may fall off a shelf in a bookstore and be the one you need to read. They also leave feathers as calling cards or coins. Sometimes when they are close you can get a wonderful scent in the air and other people report hearing a heavenly choir or music when angels are close.

Sometimes angels will also call out your name. You will often hear this just as you are waking up or going to sleep and it sounds like your own voice on some occasions. Angels will also communicate by sending you signs like repeating numbers, for example 11:11 or 22:22.

Would you like to learn more?

I regularly run Angel Workshops from my home in Bangor. The next one is scheduled for Saturday 10th December 2016. Why not come along and spend a morning with the angels?

I would love to hear your angel stories – please leave me a comment below or get in touch to share your stories or to ask a question about the angels.

Namaste