This one has been a massive thing for me lately. As you may or may not know, I recently decided to go back to working for someone else, after being self-employed for 3 years. I am also still running my energy healing business alongside this new work, so life has got rather busy lately!
It’s funny how I now seem to have clients beating down my door for appointments, when previously they were nowhere to be seen. I am somewhat bemused by this – it’s fantastic to have full clinics each month and a growing waiting list but it is also awful to have to turn people away when my clinics are full.
This is where I have come up against the boundary issue. I want to be able to fit people in, to make space for them in my diary and to facilitate their needs. So I have found myself putting extra clinic dates on, adding additional appointment slots into my diary and generally taking on a little bit too much.
I promised myself that when I went back to working for someone else, I wouldn’t allow myself to get burned out. Back in the early days of my new business I was working full time and running the business in the evenings and weekends. It all became too much and that’s why I ended up leaving full time work to concentrate solely on Rocks n Rituals.
Any of you who know me or follow my blog, will be aware of my internal struggle and battle about making the decision to set parts of the business down to allow me to find a financial balance, by working for someone else again.
Now I find myself 2 months into the new role, beginning to allow old habits to creep back in. I am squeezing people in when I really shouldn’t, I am feeling guilty for having to put people on a waiting list and I am tired!
So I had to have a word with myself! Time for some proper boundaries and then to actually stick to them. I need to honour and respect myself enough so that I set a good example for my children and my clients. I always tell clients that self care is vital, to respect their own boundaries and to show up authentically for themselves every day. How can I preach that if I am not doing the same?
It’s really easy to complain about how much we have on our plates isn’t it? I have a list as long as my arm – 30 hours working for someone else, running my own energy healing business alongside those hours, being a mum, being a full time carer for my mother, training as a Shamanic Practitioner and being a volunteer for St. John’s Ambulance ….. the list goes on. Not to mention trying to find time for my partner and I, as well as my own space to meditate and also to paint!
The thing is – it is possible to do all these things and avoid getting stressed or unhappy. It is simply a matter of boundaries. I start each day with at least 10 minutes of meditation – for me this is completely non-negotiable. Without it I get strung out and wound up.
I have also started to ring-fence certain days and times which are completely off the table when it comes to work or clients. Saturday evenings and Sundays are partner time – that is also non-negotiable. Monday evenings and most Thursdays evenings are set aside for me to spend quality time with my two children.
For now, to ensure good boundaries, I have set aside one evening a month for clients, one Saturday per month and I have added in one weekly afternoon slot to help accommodate demand for Rocks n Rituals’ services. If demand continues at its current level then I may drop some “normal working hours” and add in extra client sessions, but for now this is working.
From September, an extra Saturday will be added to the mix, with Reiki training coming back on to the calendar as well as a weekly Tuesday evening for Tarot class. This is where the boundaries really need to be in place – otherwise I will be draining my own life force, and won’t be able to help others.
I plan in 2019 to roll out additional weekend workshops and training – this will definitely mean a reduction in my office hours otherwise burn out will definitely be on the cards, but this will be dealt with nearer the time, once I have confirmation of student numbers.
I try my best to listen to my guides and gut instinct. I know that I am here to teach and work with healing energy to help as many people as possible, however I also know that from a physical perspective I have to earn enough to pay the bills. This is sometimes where I struggle to understand the calling! I am blessed to be able to do as much as I can and I have faith that it will work out somehow.
The hardest part is learning to stick to my boundaries and saying “no”. I am getting better at it though! I also am building a list of good local therapists to whom I can refer people so that at least I can offer them an alternative if they don’t wish to wait for an appointment with me. This also means I can help other people with their business – for me that is so important – we should all support one another in our efforts to help people.
I’d love to hear from you – where do you find it hard to set boundaries? How do you manage your own weekly schedule?
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With love & blessings,