Spiritual Prime ~ Personal Shine

Woman's silhouette in sun

When you develop spiritually you allow your inner light to shine brightly – and this gives other people permission to do the same. When you see someone living their best life, shining with an inner brightness and radiating happiness, strength and patience – you want to do the same – right?

Spiritual Prime ~ Personal Shine is a new programme of personal and spiritual development which I have put together to help people who want to either get on board the self improvement bus or to help those already on board to more fully develop and grow.

When I started out on this path it was crystals and Reiki that first sparked an interest. I quickly realised that meditation and disciplined practice was also required but I wasn’t sure how or where to begin. I also noticed that there were so many options for development out there that I was in danger of starting lots of new things but never actually seeing any of them through.

This is why I have put together this new programme.  The idea is that the people who join the programme can work through a series of workshops and events together as one group over the course of a 3 month period each time. This allows students to grow relationships with other like-minded people and to have support both from me and the other students as they open up to the world of spiritual and personal development.

For beginners, it all starts with an in depth class focusing on meditation, breath-work and the basics such as chakras, auras and energy.  This is then followed up with a level 1 crystals workshop and a level 1 Reiki workshop and attunement.  Even if the person has perhaps touched on these subjects before, they are sure to learn something new.  The beginner’s package also includes 2 Tarot workshops to introduce students to the wonderful world of using the Tarot for self-improvement and a private one to one healing session together with closed Facebook group support is also part of the deal. This 3 month programme kicks off in September and runs through until November – dates are on the website.

For those who may have already made a start on this path, or for those who complete the first series of events, there is an intermediate package available which takes the learning up to level 2. Students again start with an intermediate level Development Class which then leads to level 2 Crystals and level 2 Reiki – the practitioner level.  2 more in-depth Tarot workshops are included as well as another private healing session and on-going support in the groups. This package runs from January to March.

The advanced package includes Reiki Master attunement & workshops, Crystal Master workshop and Advanced Tarot classes alongside the usual private session and support. This advanced group will meet from April to June.

So – is any of this for you? Here are some questions to consider before you decide if this is for you: –

  • Are you already on a path of self-discovery?
  • Have you started out with some kind of self-improvement – self-help books etc but you want a more spiritual outlook?
  • Do you know there is something bigger out there and that there is more to life than meets the eye?
  • Do you have an interest in the paranormal and maybe have experience of Spirit contact
  • Do you have an interest in the concepts being raised in quantum physics and energy healing?
  • Are you willing to step outside of your comfort zone in order to make the changes you want to make?
  • Do you have a thirst for knowledge and want to develop your intuitive abilities and sixth sense?
  • Are you a creative and independent thinker – able to look at things from different perspectives?
  • Have you perhaps tried things like the Law of Attraction/The Secret but struggled to make any lasting change in your life?
  • Has mainstream religion has lost its appeal and you want the deeper meaning behind life rather than blindly following the masses?
  • Are you ready to discover exactly who you are and are you brave enough to look into the dark hidden corners of your psyche in order to find out?

If you have answered ‘Yes!’ to most of the above questions then these new packages are for you.

What if you have already done some of the stuff included in the packages and just want to dip in and do the parts that are new for you?  Well, providing there is space, you can certainly do just that.  Priority will be given to those who have signed up for the full package and there are only 10 spaces available on each programme.  If 10 people sign up then unfortunately there will be no spaces left on the individual workshops but if not, then you can certainly come along! I am running a registered interest list for this purpose.  Contact me by email – debibarr@rocksnrituals.co.uk if you want to ask about individual workshops or joining the programme.

Joining the programme is by far the best value – it is significantly cheaper to join the full suite of events than it is to just book and pay as you go. It also means that you are guaranteed a place.  Once the 10 spaces are filled then the programme will be full and you will have to wait until the following year before you can join – so please do not delay if this sparks your interest.  get in touch with me today via email (debibarr@rocksnrituals.co.uk) or register your interest here.

I’d love to hear from you – where are you on your journey of personal and spiritual development? When you were starting out what would have helped you along the way? Leave a comment below or contact me via Facebook.


It breaks my heart …

Light at the end of the Tunnel

She can’t just “be” – she can’t find peace – always on the move, always busy, always feeling put upon – thinking that is her lot. She feels a deep layer of sadness because she can’t be who she wants to be – in fact maybe she doesn’t even know who she is anymore. Depression or anxiety starts to creep in, life becomes routine and boring, no fun – no love for herself. Putting walls up to shield her sensitive nature from the world – all the negativity and harsh environments around her become unbearable so it is easier to just block it out with a wall – a wall of “busyness” or a wall of alcohol or a wall of silence or a wall of blocked emotions … anything to help her keep out the troubling thoughts and emotions that remind her that she is inherently powerful, she just needs to be brave and allow her emotions to surface and to shine her light.

She feels she always has to give to others always has to be in survival mode. Unable to shine her inner light – unable to inspire herself and others to shine brightly – afraid of her own power – thinking she has no power and she is powerless to change things.

She feels alone and separated from everyone else – the illusion of separation. She has lost the bigger picture and the concept that her thoughts are things, her energy vibration is constantly attracting and repelling things to and from her, she has forgotten that she plays an integral role in the web of life.

This breaks my heart because I have been that woman. I have been there hiding behind walls, shutting out emotions until the bottom of the wine bottle made them all come pouring out. I have been the busy career girl with too little time to meditate or be aware of my own essence. I have been afraid to express myself – scared to use my voice, scared to spread my wings and fly – scared of my own light and my own power – held back by limiting beliefs and society’s conditioning.

This breaks my heart because I can identify with this woman – I can understand and I know how she feels. She needs to let go of being busy all the time – she needs to learn the art of self-care – she cannot give from an empty vessel. Knowing how it feels is important because this connects me with her in a unique way – we have shared experiences.

From these shared experiences we can then learn that we are all connected. We are all playing vital roles in this thing called “life”. We are all intrinsically linked – our thoughts and energy vibrations create the world around us and as we learn to shine our own lights, we give others the permission to do the same, and so the ripple effect begins and we create a new world where respect, love and understanding are valued more than consumerism, greed and hate.

It breaks my heart to see people feel that they cannot live the life they were born to lead and that they feel they have to play small. Life is such a gift – we are immensely powerful souls in our human form, having a physical experience and learning emotional life lessons – how wonderful would it be if we all felt we could shine our lights brightly, express our emotions without fear and live truly authentic lives – in tune with each other and in tune with Mother Earth.

Thank you for reading all the way to the end. If this spoke to you and you would like to be kept up to date with my work and find out about services that may help you then please join my mailing list here or connect with me on social media.

The pain that just won’t quit …

Woman in pain

It’s just there … every day. The constant nagging pain that won’t quit. Some days are better than others but it is always there. The twinge in the back, the tightness in the joints, the utter exhaustion of having to cope with chronic pain, day in and day out. You paint your smile on and you try your best to go about your business – people don’t understand or care really. Nobody wants to hear you talk about pain. You don’t want to be seen as a complaining bore-bag so you keep it to yourself and struggle on.

Any time that you perhaps do mention it, people look at you and say things like, ‘But you are too young to have pain like that!’ or ‘OMG are you saying you’ve arthritis at 44 – wise up!’. So you stay silent and carry on … all the time screaming inside.Sound familiar to anyone?

This is my daily life – I have lived with chronic pain for more than 15 years and today is just one of those days were it feels like I’ve had enough.  I get them quite often but over the last few days I’ve just had a big flare up and to be honest I am feeling like utter crap today. Yet I’m in work, sitting at my desk, trying to get on with it because I know that if I lie down and let it take me, I may never get up again.

I have found that the more I complain about it, or the more I focus on how crap it is to have pain every day, then the worse the pain gets. Sometimes I try and talk to the pain – I ask my back why it is so sore, or my knees why they are so inflamed … sometimes that works and by breathing healing energy into the sore area and acknowledging it, the pain seems to fade for a while.

I know that my current flare up is because I have not been really looking after myself properly – when I don’t eat well my body starts to complain. It used to just be IBS which is crippling in itself at times but nowadays it is full on joint and bone pain.  The problem is, and I’m sure many of you can identify, when you are feeling sore, tired and down it is hard to eat healthy food because you crave comfort food – yet you know that this won’t help.

I know that I need to try and move my body – get out for a walk, put my bare feet on to Mother Earth and ground the energy, go for a swim or just simply do some moving meditation work like qigong but when I am feeling like this, it is so damn hard to make myself do it – can you relate?

I know that I need to swerve the biscuits and bread and focus on the foods that my body actually wants, like fresh vegetables, high quality protein and fresh fruit – but I just want black coffee and chocolate to give me a lift, which then comes crashing down round me twice as hard.

I know that I need to drink more clean water and lose the tea, coffee and alcohol but it’s hard to swap out the hot comfort of a coffee for a cold water on a dark, dismal wintry day.

I know I need to meditate and find time for self-care – this one I do no matter what, but sometimes I just can’t turn off my internal dialogue that says ‘You aren’t good enough’. Particularly as I work with energy healing and other methods, I feel sometimes that I am not good enough since I am suffering myself – but then I remember that’s why I got into this business in the first place – to try and help myself and others who are in the same boat.

I felt the need to put this into words today because it can feel so isolating and depressing going through chronic pain. I wanted you to know that you are not alone and sometimes just by reaching out and talking about it, you can perhaps make the difference to someone who is struggling.

I don’t have a magic wand or all the answers – if I did, then I would probably be very rich and no doubt wouldn’t be writing this blog just now! All I can say is that there are several things that can help and if you can just find the strength to take one of these steps then you just may find enough relief to get you through the day.

  1. Take your focus from your internal pain to something external and see if you can find a reason to be grateful – if may be simply that you have a roof over your head and are sheltered from the rain.
  2. Have a glass of water and imagine it cleansing you from the inside.
  3. Have a warm bath or shower and allow the water to wash away your sadness and pain.
  4. Do something nice for someone else – this helps shift the energy and makes you feel good.
  5. Put your bare feet on a natural surface – sand, stones or sand, and feel the energy of Mother Earth rise up through your feet. New scientific studies have shown that this helps to reduce inflammation in the body when done regularly.
  6. Listen to your body and give it the food it actually needs, not what you are just craving.
  7. Meditate or listen to a guided relaxation sequence to help your body relax.
  8. Ask for help – you don’t have to do it all by yourself.
  9. Talk to someone – get your feelings out. Write them down if that’s easier, but get them out of your head and into reality where you can deal with them.
  10. Stick to a regular sleeping routine – much as it’s tempting to want to stay in bed all day, this will make you feel worse, so try to stick to regular bedtimes and wake up times.

I hope this perhaps helps in some small way to get you through the day if you are feeling sore, tired and low. I’d love to hear how you help yourself if you suffer from chronic pain or fatigue – what gives you the best results?  Leave a comment below or connect with me via Facebook or Twitter.

Happy New Year! ….. and breathe …

Happy New Year

Wow how fast did the last half of 2018 go?!  For me so much has happened over the last 4-6 months that I have barely had time to catch my breath.  I changed jobs, re-modelled my business and moved house … phew!

This is the first day in a long time where I have had time to re-connect, re-group and get back into my writing and creativity.  I’ve just spent time catching up on some Tarot readings that I promised people and once I write this short blog I intend to spend some time painting and creating a new art piece.

I wanted to take this opportunity to wish you all a very Happy New Year.  2019 I feel will be a year where we can manifest our true desires – depending on how much work we put in last year.  I found 2018 tough at times – there were many times where I had to face my fears and my shadow self in order to embrace change, heal on a profound level and start to live the life I want to live.

I completed my advanced Shamanic Practitioner course last year and I am so excited and blessed to be in the position to lead a wonderful new course with a super bunch of students who are all keen to work with Spirit on their own personal shamanic journey.

I also switched jobs and whilst it has been tough to juggle my business demands with being back in full time work, it was necessary in order to make the changes needed to my home life.  I am now settled in a lovely new home with my partner after 6 years of us juggling two houses – so it is fabulous to now all be under one roof finally.

I am already feeling the difference in the energy of 2019.  There is a subtle excitement in the air – a feeling of “anything is possible” – and so it is.  Anything is possible!  Next weekend I am running a Vision Board workshop.  I run one at the start of January each year and it is always so inspiring to see everyone’s boards take shape.  It is also wonderful to then keep in touch as the year goes on to see those visions taking shape in reality.  Have you ever made a Vision Board?  Tell me in the comments – I’d love to hear your story.

I don’t set resolutions as they make you feel like a failure.  Instead I am setting intentions – I intend that 2019 will be a year full of love, laughter and healing journeys. I intend to hold space for my shamanic students and to be the best teacher I can be for them. I intend to continue to volunteer for St John Ambulance to give back whenever I can for the abundance in my life. I intend to create more art, more writing and to not let the corporate jungle swallow me up …. watch this space!

Happy New Year to you and I hope it is everything you need and want it to be.

Blessed Be x

Reiki is a con?!

I woke up this morning to find that someone had left a review on my Google Business page, saying nothing more than “Reiki is a con.”

Wow – this person has clearly had a bad experience with Reiki. I am not sure why they felt the need to leave the review on my page as I have never met the person but I felt compelled to respond and to write a few words on the subject.

My ego-self immediately wanted to remove the review since it was clearly not a direct reflection of my business. However, I decided not to do that.  Instead I responded with the following, “I’m sorry you feel that way. Since we haven’t met, perhaps you’d like to share your experience with Reiki so I can help you?”

It got me thinking – often people turn to Reiki as a magic cure all and then when it doesn’t deliver the results they are expecting they dismiss it as a con.

Reiki is not a magic wand. It doesn’t remove your issues, it uncovers them so that you can then take steps to heal and move forward. Reiki gives you the space and time to face your demons, fears and issues head on so that you can then make a decision as to how you want to proceed.

Perhaps this person was misled as to what Reiki was or maybe it is a case of a simple misunderstanding – who knows? The person is clearly in pain and feels that Reiki has let them down or perhaps they have never even experienced a session but have decided for reasons unknown that it is not for them.

My role as a Reiki Teacher is to help people experience Reiki and to understand that they have a duty of care to themselves to work with the energy, not against it. A bad attitude, closed mind or limited perspective will only serve to prevent you healing and experiencing the joys that life has to offer.

Understanding that Reiki is nothing more than a tool to help you discover who you really are is the key. Learning to meditate, to live by the Reiki Philosophy and Principles and meeting the universe half-way is the way to start living the life you love.

So often we get caught up in a negative spiral of thoughts and emotions, so much so that we feel there is no escape. Reiki offers an escape route – but only if you let it in and take action to make changes in your life. Without your action Reiki is nothing but energy that will make no difference unless you let it in – perhaps this what has happened with my mystery reviewer. Who knows?

I’d love to hear your stories about Reiki – good and bad. Have you experienced it for yourself? Are you intrigued but skeptical? Tell me your story if you wish and may you have a wonderful day.


So … what does Reiki do?!

People sometimes think that Reiki is a miraculous cure all – like a cosmic magic wand that will cure all ills. It is often marketed and sold as a healing tool that will take away all your worries, concerns and illness.

This is NOT what Reiki does.

“Reiki doesn’t remove, it uncovers, it clears away the confusion to help us recognise and identify the underlying causes that need our attention in order that we can begin to help and heal ourselves. The belief that Reiki is a miracle cure is far more palatable to most people, and easier than the reality of helping you get your shit together.” – Phillip Hawkins – “Reiki hold my beer I’ve got this!”

This quote sums up exactly what Reiki does. It shines the light into the dark corners and illuminates what needs to be addressed. Healing is a matter of deep personal introspection, being brave enough to look into the shadows and face what is there. It helps you bring to the surface all the things that are holding you back.

Usui himself knew that in order for healing to take place, we must take an active role and make changes in our own lives. He called Reiki “his system” – the word Reiki was given to this system later, along with the hand positions, symbols and other hoops we now all tend to jump through. Usui recognised that we are all connected to this life force within us and around us and that true healing comes from within. Reiki is a system of personal and spiritual development – the healing of others is simply a side effect of the work we do on ourselves.

It’s funny how from a physical perspective we will certainly change things if we hurt ourselves. For example if you burn yourself you learn not to put your hand in the fire again or if you cut yourself you know not to pick the scab and allow it to heal. From an emotional or spiritual perspective though we tend to repeat patterns and then wonder why we are still hurting. Still having negative thoughts and repeating a cycle of behaviour.  Reiki helps you see what changes need made and then it is up to you to decide to make those changes.

Are you brave enough to take the first step and let Reiki into your life? Why not come along to Level 1 Reiki on Saturday 11th May 2019 and find out how Reiki can open up a new world of personal and spiritual development for you.

How are your boundaries?

This one has been a massive thing for me lately. As you may or may not know, I recently decided to go back to working for someone else, after being self-employed for 3 years. I am also still running my energy healing business alongside this new work, so life has got rather busy lately!

It’s funny how I now seem to have clients beating down my door for appointments, when previously they were nowhere to be seen. I am somewhat bemused by this – it’s fantastic to have full clinics each month and a growing waiting list but it is also awful to have to turn people away when my clinics are full.

This is where I have come up against the boundary issue. I want to be able to fit people in, to make space for them in my diary and to facilitate their needs. So I have found myself putting extra clinic dates on, adding additional appointment slots into my diary and generally taking on a little bit too much.

I promised myself that when I went back to working for someone else, I wouldn’t allow myself to get burned out. Back in the early days of my new business I was working full time and running the business in the evenings and weekends. It all became too much and that’s why I ended up leaving full time work to concentrate solely on Rocks n Rituals.

Any of you who know me or follow my blog, will be aware of my internal struggle and battle about making the decision to set parts of the business down to allow me to find a financial balance, by working for someone else again.

Now I find myself 2 months into the new role, beginning to allow old habits to creep back in. I am squeezing people in when I really shouldn’t, I am feeling guilty for having to put people on a waiting list and I am tired!

So I had to have a word with myself! Time for some proper boundaries and then to actually stick to them. I need to honour and respect myself enough so that I set a good example for my children and my clients. I always tell clients that self care is vital, to respect their own boundaries and to show up authentically for themselves every day. How can I preach that if I am not doing the same?

It’s really easy to complain about how much we have on our plates isn’t it? I have a list as long as my arm – 30 hours working for someone else, running my own energy healing business alongside those hours, being a mum, being a full time carer for my mother, training as a Shamanic Practitioner and being a volunteer for St. John’s Ambulance ….. the list goes on. Not to mention trying to find time for my partner and I,  as well as my own space to meditate and also to paint!

The thing is – it is possible to do all these things and avoid getting stressed or unhappy. It is simply a matter of boundaries. I start each day with at least 10 minutes of meditation – for me this is completely non-negotiable. Without it I get strung out and wound up.

I have also started to ring-fence certain days and times which are completely off the table when it comes to work or clients. Saturday evenings and Sundays are partner time – that is also non-negotiable. Monday evenings and most Thursdays evenings are set aside for me to spend quality time with my two children.

For now, to ensure good boundaries, I have set aside one evening a month for clients, one Saturday per month and I have added in one weekly afternoon slot to help accommodate demand for Rocks n Rituals’ services. If demand continues at its current level then I may drop some “normal working hours” and add in extra client sessions, but for now this is working.

From September, an extra Saturday will be added to the mix, with Reiki training coming back on to the calendar as well as a weekly Tuesday evening for Tarot class. This is where the boundaries really need to be in place – otherwise I will be draining my own life force, and won’t be able to help others.

I plan in 2019 to roll out additional weekend workshops and training – this will definitely mean a reduction in my office hours otherwise burn out will definitely be on the cards, but this will be dealt with nearer the time, once I have confirmation of student numbers.

I try my best to listen to my guides and gut instinct. I know that I am here to teach and work with healing energy to help as many people as possible, however I also know that from a physical perspective I have to earn enough to pay the bills. This is sometimes where I struggle to understand the calling! I am blessed to be able to do as much as I can and I have faith that it will work out somehow.

The hardest part is learning to stick to my boundaries and saying “no”. I am getting better at it though! I also am building a list of good local therapists to whom I can refer people so that at least I can offer them an alternative if they don’t wish to wait for an appointment with me. This also means I can help other people with their business – for me that is so important – we should all support one another in our efforts to help people.

I’d love to hear from you – where do you find it hard to set boundaries? How do you manage your own weekly schedule?

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With love & blessings,