So … what does Reiki do?!

People sometimes think that Reiki is a miraculous cure all – like a cosmic magic wand that will cure all ills. It is often marketed and sold as a healing tool that will take away all your worries, concerns and illness.

This is NOT what Reiki does.

“Reiki doesn’t remove, it uncovers, it clears away the confusion to help us recognise and identify the underlying causes that need our attention in order that we can begin to help and heal ourselves. The belief that Reiki is a miracle cure is far more palatable to most people, and easier than the reality of helping you get your shit together.” – Phillip Hawkins – “Reiki hold my beer I’ve got this!”

This quote sums up exactly what Reiki does. It shines the light into the dark corners and illuminates what needs to be addressed. Healing is a matter of deep personal introspection, being brave enough to look into the shadows and face what is there. It helps you bring to the surface all the things that are holding you back.

Usui himself knew that in order for healing to take place, we must take an active role and make changes in our own lives. He called Reiki “his system” – the word Reiki was given to this system later, along with the hand positions, symbols and other hoops we now all tend to jump through. Usui recognised that we are all connected to this life force within us and around us and that true healing comes from within. Reiki is a system of personal and spiritual development – the healing of others is simply a side effect of the work we do on ourselves.

It’s funny how from a physical perspective we will certainly change things if we hurt ourselves. For example if you burn yourself you learn not to put your hand in the fire again or if you cut yourself you know not to pick the scab and allow it to heal. From an emotional or spiritual perspective though we tend to repeat patterns and then wonder why we are still hurting. Still having negative thoughts and repeating a cycle of behaviour.  Reiki helps you see what changes need made and then it is up to you to decide to make those changes.

Are you brave enough to take the first step and let Reiki into your life? Why not book a session and try it out, or why not come along to Level 1 Reiki on Saturday 8th September and find out how Reiki can open up a new world of personal and spiritual development for you.

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How are your boundaries?

This one has been a massive thing for me lately. As you may or may not know, I recently decided to go back to working for someone else, after being self-employed for 3 years. I am also still running my energy healing business alongside this new work, so life has got rather busy lately!

It’s funny how I now seem to have clients beating down my door for appointments, when previously they were nowhere to be seen. I am somewhat bemused by this – it’s fantastic to have full clinics each month and a growing waiting list but it is also awful to have to turn people away when my clinics are full.

This is where I have come up against the boundary issue. I want to be able to fit people in, to make space for them in my diary and to facilitate their needs. So I have found myself putting extra clinic dates on, adding additional appointment slots into my diary and generally taking on a little bit too much.

I promised myself that when I went back to working for someone else, I wouldn’t allow myself to get burned out. Back in the early days of my new business I was working full time and running the business in the evenings and weekends. It all became too much and that’s why I ended up leaving full time work to concentrate solely on Rocks n Rituals.

Any of you who know me or follow my blog, will be aware of my internal struggle and battle about making the decision to set parts of the business down to allow me to find a financial balance, by working for someone else again.

Now I find myself 2 months into the new role, beginning to allow old habits to creep back in. I am squeezing people in when I really shouldn’t, I am feeling guilty for having to put people on a waiting list and I am tired!

So I had to have a word with myself! Time for some proper boundaries and then to actually stick to them. I need to honour and respect myself enough so that I set a good example for my children and my clients. I always tell clients that self care is vital, to respect their own boundaries and to show up authentically for themselves every day. How can I preach that if I am not doing the same?

It’s really easy to complain about how much we have on our plates isn’t it? I have a list as long as my arm – 30 hours working for someone else, running my own energy healing business alongside those hours, being a mum, being a full time carer for my mother, training as a Shamanic Practitioner and being a volunteer for St. John’s Ambulance ….. the list goes on. Not to mention trying to find time for my partner and I,  as well as my own space to meditate and also to paint!

The thing is – it is possible to do all these things and avoid getting stressed or unhappy. It is simply a matter of boundaries. I start each day with at least 10 minutes of meditation – for me this is completely non-negotiable. Without it I get strung out and wound up.

I have also started to ring-fence certain days and times which are completely off the table when it comes to work or clients. Saturday evenings and Sundays are partner time – that is also non-negotiable. Monday evenings and most Thursdays evenings are set aside for me to spend quality time with my two children.

For now, to ensure good boundaries, I have set aside one evening a month for clients, one Saturday per month and I have added in one weekly afternoon slot to help accommodate demand for Rocks n Rituals’ services. If demand continues at its current level then I may drop some “normal working hours” and add in extra client sessions, but for now this is working.

From September, an extra Saturday will be added to the mix, with Reiki training coming back on to the calendar as well as a weekly Tuesday evening for Tarot class. This is where the boundaries really need to be in place – otherwise I will be draining my own life force, and won’t be able to help others.

I plan in 2019 to roll out additional weekend workshops and training – this will definitely mean a reduction in my office hours otherwise burn out will definitely be on the cards, but this will be dealt with nearer the time, once I have confirmation of student numbers.

I try my best to listen to my guides and gut instinct. I know that I am here to teach and work with healing energy to help as many people as possible, however I also know that from a physical perspective I have to earn enough to pay the bills. This is sometimes where I struggle to understand the calling! I am blessed to be able to do as much as I can and I have faith that it will work out somehow.

The hardest part is learning to stick to my boundaries and saying “no”. I am getting better at it though! I also am building a list of good local therapists to whom I can refer people so that at least I can offer them an alternative if they don’t wish to wait for an appointment with me. This also means I can help other people with their business – for me that is so important – we should all support one another in our efforts to help people.

I’d love to hear from you – where do you find it hard to set boundaries? How do you manage your own weekly schedule?

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With love & blessings,

Debi

Natural Healing Retreat 2018 – Review

Rocks n Rituals’ first Natural Healing Retreat took place from 27-29 April 2018 in the glorious setting of the North Coast of Northern Ireland. Originally planned for Tir Na Moe in County Donegal, a last minute venue change threatened to throw our plans into jeopardy. Thankfully, my co-host Ashley Wood and his partner James, came to the rescue! They sourced a wonderful replacement venue – Ballyvoy Camping Barn, just outside Ballycastle.

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A couple of our attendees unfortunately pulled out – perhaps the word “camping” in the name of the venue put them off or perhaps it just simply wasn’t meant to be for them at this time. Nonetheless with the new venue we were able to open the retreat up to a few more people and we ended up with a lovely bunch of people coming together for healing and laughter.

The venue was lovely! The two shared guest bedrooms contained 6 bunk beds, which were very comfortable and clean, along with an en-suite bathroom. We had full use of the entire property, indoor and outdoor. The kitchen and dining area opened up into a lovely lounge area where we ran our circles and workshops.

 

Outside there were picnic tables and seating as well as a beautiful garden area, surrounding farmland and just across the road was a wonderful little bar restaurant for anyone who wanted a nightcap.

As facilitators, we arrived early on the Friday afternoon and prepared the space for use as healing venue. Ashley and I used Reiki and Shamanic techniques to energetically cleanse the property, making it ready for the guests and our spiritual healing teams to join us.

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On Friday evening we gathered together in circle and welcomed everyone to the venue. Guests had arrived from 5pm and we ate together before conducting our first circle. We invited in Great Spirit, the four directions and archangels who guard the directions, elemental energies, angels and spirit guides to work with us throughout the entire weekend. We channeled healing energy together, raised energy with drumming and we then worked together to set our intentions for the weekend and learned a little about Beltane.

It was breakfast time on Saturday morning before we knew it. My partner Kerrie cooked up a storm in the kitchen and we all ate our fill before settling down to our first morning workshop. We learned about elemental energies and used meditation to connect with the elements of earth, air, fire and water as well as meeting one of our healing guides. It was a beautifully healing experience and we then took a break for some lunch.

Lunch was a homemade soup and crusty bread. Some attendees chose to go out instead so missed out on the lovely soup but that is the beauty of a relaxed retreat weekend – everyone can do what suits them and there was plenty of time in the schedule for free time.

After lunch we made the most of the glorious sunshine and Ashley took everyone outside to work with healing energy, crystals and oracle cards. It was a lovely afternoon and the weather was amazing! Lots of sun-blushed skin later that evening!

 

After dinner everyone had the chance to try out one or two treatments. There were some wonderful healing moments in the therapy sessions and everyone was able to enjoy some time out.

After a good night’s sleep we all had some breakfast, gathered together to ground and close off our weekend’s healing energy and then we checked out at 11am. My partner and I then went to the nearby Breen Forest Park for a walk amongst the 2000 year old oak trees and to leave a gift for the fairies. Next year perhaps we will take one of the group sessions to the fairy ring – who knows?!

 

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Metamorphosis!

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Metamorphosis – love this word!  It has been running through my head for the last few days and weeks. I know it means change but decided to see what the dictionary had to say about it –

1. In biology. a profound change in form from one stage to the next in the life history of an organism, as from the caterpillar to the pupa and from the pupa to the adult butterfly.

2. A complete change of form, structure, or substance, as transformation by magic or witchcraft.
3. Any complete change in appearance, character, circumstances, etc.

I am going through a metamorphosis of sorts myself. I feel a complete change of form and structure going on within my life and career just now. In fact it has been happening for months.

As you probably already know if you follow my blog, or if you follow Rocks n Rituals on Facebook, I have recently been on a job hunt and I have just been offered a new role with a local charitable organisation in my hometown, which is really exciting for me.

As you can imagine, having been fully self-employed for the last 3 years, it will be awesome to have a salary again but it will also be really strange having to leave the house each day to go and work for someone else. However, I only applied for work that felt right in my gut and that I knew would help feed my soul on some level so I am actually really looking forward to it!

Rocks n Rituals will have to change though and that is where the metamorphosis reference comes in. I have been doing a lot of personal development work over the last year. I have been studying shamanic practice and my journey so far through the Medicine Wheel has sparked some big personal changes in my life and has started a deep healing process. As such, I feel it is really important for me to integrate these changes and learn from them. I know that they will bring value and meaning to my life and in turn, I can then perhaps help other people with their own personal healing and transformation.

I am aware that once I return to working for someone else next month that time may become a little tight to fit everything in! I know from past experience what it is like to work full time and run a business on the side – I definitely do not want to burn myself out, or lose the time for my personal life and down time!

I keep hearing “set it down!” I have been fighting that but it keeps coming up – over and over again. Set it down … for now. I feel my soul is telling me that for a little while, Rocks n Rituals will have to take a back seat and it needs to be “set down” for a bit.  As such, I am running out the last of the workshops and events that had been pencilled in for April and then I am simply going to take a break from running workshops and events for a few months – maybe even for the rest of this year. I’ll still be seeing my regular clients and members in my monthly clinic but the big training events and workshops will be stopped for a while, ending with the Natural Healing Retreat in April.

I feel that the focus and direction of Rocks n Rituals is going to completely change later this year. I have some exciting plans and thoughts about what I would like to see happen but for now, I need to wrap them up in a little cocoon and allow them to develop fully, so that they can emerge later in the year as fully formed butterfly!

I have learned this year that I need to fully tune into my intuitive nature and allow my path to be directed from the heart and from my gut reaction, rather than letting my head rule the show. This is difficult for a Capricorn! What I can say is that it definitely just works! When I follow my gut and allow soul to lead, things all just work out and I find myself in the flow of life. I am therefore going to try my best to continue to do this and allow Rocks n Rituals the time out to change and undergo its own metamorphosis.

I’d love to hear from you – how do you handle change? Do you embrace it and follow your heart or do you resist it?

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Decisions, decisions … the choice is made!

Making decisions can be tough! So many options, so many conflicting thoughts and feelings. Emotions get involved – do I listen to my heart or to my head? Do I tune into my body and trust my gut reaction? Well of course that is what I should do – though sometimes that is easier said than done isn’t it?

I have been at a cross-roads in my business over the last few months. Looking at the accounts and figures over the last year or so I can see a marked downturn in business – although somehow I am still making ends meet which is great! I know the economy isn’t at its strongest and I am also well aware that people only tend to come to me for help when they hit the wall and have nowhere else to turn. Unfortunately, despite there being a lot of interest in complementary therapies and energy healing, it doesn’t always translate well into actual clients and business in this part of the country.

I have been toying with taking it all online and doing more distance work, and that is still in the pipeline but I need to invest a little more time and money into good technical solutions for this in order to take it to the next level, and right now it doesn’t quite fit in with my plans.

So, I have been considering whether to simply cut my losses and walk away from self-employment altogether to go back to full time employment, or whether to go back to employment part-time and run my business alongside my job, or whether to simply hang in there and see if things get better. To be totally honest I am a little tired of the constant struggle to bring in new business and to keep generating new ideas to keep things fresh. So I have made a decision (at last!)

I am going to go back to working for someone else … but I do not want to give up my business, after all the blood, sweat and tears that have gone into making it this far. I have worked hard to make the business as successful as it is and parts of it work really well and other parts not so much. My decision to return to employment really stems from the fact that I have so many plans for the future that require a little extra cash, that I decided this was the best way forward. So I am currently applying for full time work in the local area – preferably back in the legal world where I was at my happiest in the past.

The last 3 years being fully self-employed have been a wonderful adventure and I have learned so much. I have had to wear so many different hats along the way – from accountant to web designer to social media manager to therapist, and much more! I have enjoyed every second of it – well, almost every second – I won’t miss the sleepless nights wondering where the rent is coming from – although it always got paid! I have also found that as a sole trader working from home, it can be very isolating and lonely from time to time when things aren’t busy, so I am quite looking forward to the social interaction of being back in a busy office – yes, you can remind me I said that when I am complaining about it in a few weeks’ time!

It’s funny how once you actually make a decision things seems to feel much lighter. I have fought with myself for months about this choice. I had the negative little voice in my head telling me that I was a total failure and that everyone would see that if I went back to employment. I had the defeatist voice inside tell me to just wind down the business altogether and simply work for someone else and give it all up. Then I had the small quiet voice, reassuring me, telling me that working for someone else didn’t mean failure, it just meant a different way to serve people. I can bring my Reiki training, mindfulness and stress management experience into the office environment, infusing all my work with healing Reiki energy and shining my light in a new way. I can continue to offer private client sessions a couple of times a month and I can also run workshops still at weekends from time to time. The little voice also reassured me that I drive my life – I am responsible for my choices and decisions, it doesn’t matter what people think, and that if I find that employment isn’t actually the right path, I can always leave! I am not held at gunpoint at my desk!

I am now actually quite excited at the prospect of going back into the corporate world, with a wiser and calmer head on my shoulders. I know how to manage my stress levels in a much more healthy way with meditation and energy healing, rather than caffeine and junk food! I will know exactly how much cash is going into the bank each month which will make me feel much more secure financially – always a good thing!

What also excites me is that, because Rocks n Rituals will now be concentrated into less days per month, it means that I can focus on the elements that really work well – and do them better. So once I get back into employment (applications are underway so wish me luck!) – Rocks n Rituals will run as follows: –

I will have availability for a maximum of 12 client sessions per month – 6 sessions available one Saturday per month, and 6 available over 2 Wednesday evenings per month. Priority will be given to members for the 12 available client sessions per month, so if you aren’t a member then get on board now before it’s too late! I have only 8 membership spaces left.

One workshop will be offered per month – for example Reiki Training, Crystal Healing Workshops or Angel Awareness Courses.

My weekly Tuesday night Tarot classes will remain in place and will run periodically throughout the year.

This is my initial plan and what is amusing is that I am noticing clients are already navigating to these times anyway – like the universe is signalling to me that this is the right path and is meeting me half way. I am in a good place emotionally and mentally now about my decision – it feels right. I feel like I am meant to take this path right now – it will open doors for me, of that I have no doubt.

I wanted to write this blog to reassure anyone else who finds themselves in a similar situation to simply make the decision. Go with your gut and when you feel that lightness and expansiveness within your body as you settle into your chosen choice, you will know you have made the right choice. When you offer yourself up in service for the highest good and then step out of your own way to allow the universe to bring the opportunities to you, you will find that you have stepped into the flow of life – and that is a much nicer place to be. I have stopped trying to control how it is all going to work out. I have made a few plans for how I would like things to go but I am open to being pleasantly surprised by how things work out for me.

I will let you know how my job hunt goes! In the meantime please feel free to leave a comment, visit the website or connect with me on Facebook or Twitter.

Crystal Healing – How Gemstones Can Help With Healing

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Crystal Healing – can a bunch of stones really help with healing?! Absolutely!

Crystals and stones come from the Earth – the planet upon which we live. They were formed over millions of years deep within the Earth and as such are a natural healing product which we can use to restore balance.

Let me try to explain how it works. Your body is your physical vehicle through life but you are more than just the physical human form that we can all see. You are an electrical being with energy. Your body is made up of atoms which all carry consciousness and energy.

You have an energy field in and around your body and whether you are aware of it or not, you interact with all other energy on this planet and within the universe.

Your energy field affects the energy field of those around you and you are also affected by other people’s energy too. You know this instinctively – you find yourself drawn more towards higher vibrations such as love, laughter and happiness and away from pain, fear and negativity.

Crystals are also made up of atoms and molecules and since all atoms carry energy and an element of consciousness the crystals must therefore have energy within them.

Crystals also carry a small electrical charge (just like us) – it is called the piezo-electric effect. When you hold and rub a crystal in your hand you are generating a small electrical charge which is energy. This energy can be used to bring about change in your energy field.

For example – you may have been exposed to negative energy – perhaps you have been around someone whose mood has been very low and dark and you find yourself drained. Or perhaps you have been ill and are now physically recovering but still feel emotionally and mentally exhausted. By using crystals to effect change on your energy field you can help restore balance.

We are more than just a physical body – we need to also bring balance to our mind and spirit. Crystals work on this holistic level – restoring balance to mind, body and spirit and as such are powerhouses of healing energy that we can all tap into.

You don’t even need to believe they work! When you carry crystals with you, they attune to your vibration and help with a multitude of things. Each crystal has a set of specific properties – colour matters – it is a vibration of energy after all too! So depending on the colour, the type of crystal, how it was formed and your personal intention for the crystal, the stone can be used for a myriad of uses.

For thousands of years crystals have been used to attract love, abundance, healing and protection. Personally I wouldn’t be without mine! I use them for keeping my energy field clean and clear, to protect my home, to attract abundance and success, to restore my health, to help me connect to spirit guides and angels … the list goes on and on.

Would you like to find out more? Check out my Crystal Healing pages on the website or why not book for a treatment and experience the power and beauty of a crystal healing session for yourself?

Just like Reiki, crystal healing can be done at distance. If this interests you and you would like to try it for yourself please book a distance session today.

In the meantime, let me know – what are your favourite crystals and why?

For more information about me and the services I provide, please visit www.rocksnrituals.co.uk or follow me on social media (facebook.com/rocksnrituals or twitter.com/rocksnrituals)

Why take a membership with Rocks n Rituals?

Join the Rocks n Rituals Client Club

So many people say to me, “I must make time for myself more – I really enjoy coming to these sessions – I really will make more of an effort to come once a month.”

And then they disappear. Life gets in the way – they intend to book an appointment and before they know it 3 months has passed or 6 months … sometimes even a year.

When they get back in touch with me, they can’t believe so much time has elapsed and perhaps then they book a few sessions to try and get them into the habit of taking regular time out for their health and happiness, only for it to slip away and for life to get in the way again.

Sometimes it is simply the cost that can get in the way – my standard rate is £30 per hour and I know how tight money can be – especially at this time of year just after Christmas. January is a long month!

However it is so important to take care of yourself. To take time out of your busy life to recharge your batteries and to have some self-care. You cannot give from an empty vessel. When you take time to have a regular energy healing session such as Reiki, Crystal Healing or Reflexology, you find yourself feeling more balanced. You can cope better with life’s demands and you know that you respect yourself enough to make time for your own needs.

So I have set up a membership scheme to try and help you stick to a regular monthly self-care regime. There are various options available but the main scheme is a rolling monthly membership programme, set up via a PayPal subscription which you can cancel at any time.

For just £25 per month you get: –

  • A one hour treatment of your choice (choose from Reiki, Reflexology, Crystal Healing, Tarot Reading or Coaching) .
  • Priority for premium appointment times – early mornings, evenings and weekends.
  • 10% discount off all workshops, certified training and events (when workshops paid in full at time of booking).
  • Guaranteed protection against rising treatment prices – your monthly fee will not rise during your membership period (guaranteed for 12 months at a time).
  • Free gift each year to the value of £30 as a thank you for your loyalty – given within 7 days of the anniversary of your membership on renewal of your membership.

It really is a no-brainer – you are saving £5 off a standard session each month. If you want to avail of a longer session, such as a combined Reiki & Reflexology which lasts almost 2 hours, you can simply pay a £10 surcharge on the day of your appointment – which means you actually save £15 off the total normal price! In fact, if you know that you enjoy combined sessions best then ask me about setting up a regular monthly payment of £35 instead so you can avail of these sessions without having to worry about bring cash to the appointment!

For me, as a business owner, it makes running the business much easier. When you take out a monthly membership it helps me plan cash-flow which in turn helps me support my family. Small businesses like mine, rely on loyal customer support and regular returning business. When you take out a membership you are really helping to support Rocks n Rituals, which means I can continue to help people regain their spark and find themselves with mind, body & spirit energy healing sessions.

My services are not limited by locality – even if you are not based near me you can still avail of energy healing services. Reiki & Crystal Healing can both be done at distance, as can Tarot Reading and Coaching (via Skype), so don’t let distance be a barrier to working with me.

Full terms and conditions are listed on the website and you can see the other membership options and sign up if you like what you see. Click here to visit the website.

Why not make 2018 the year that you take more time for yourself and take a membership today?

For more information about Rocks n Rituals and the services provided, please visit www.rocksnrituals.co.uk