The Art of Getting Stuff Done

Achieve your Goals

For years I have believed that multi-tasking was the way forward. I prided myself on being able to do lots of different things throughout the day and was sure that I was therefore being really productive.

From time to time that worked but when I really took a long hard look at what I was actually achieving each day I had little to show for my hard work.

The multi-tasker in me started back in the days when I was working in an IT environment. There was so much to do and so little time to get it done that you were expected to essentially multi-task your way through the day. I was also a busy mum with two young kids at the time so quite often you would find me working online in my home office trying to write a computer programme whilst having dinner cooking for the kids and watching them while they played.

Now as a self-employed business owner I understand that multi-tasking actually doesn’t work at all!

I keep a journal and on the last day of the year, Saturday 31st December 2016, I sat down to read through it like I do each year. I noticed how I would write down my intentions and the goals I wanted to achieve. I then noticed my distinct lack of focus throughout most of the year. My lack of disciplined action towards those goals.

It was only in the latter stages of 2016 that I realised multi-tasking and task-switching wasn’t working.

Did you know that each time you switch from one task to another that you actually lose 10 minutes? It takes your brain around 10 minutes to get into the task you are currently working on, so if you keep switching between tasks you are losing a lot of time each day.

I discovered that the optimum way to get stuff done was to do ONE thing at a time. It sounds really simple but it takes discipline!

I sat down towards the end of November last year and made a list of the things I would like to complete by the end of December and then I made a list of the things I wanted to get done for January-March 2017. I have learned over the years that if I plan too far ahead then I lose motivation. 2-3 months seems to be the optimum time frame for me when goal setting.

I prioritised the list and created mini-projects for each goal. Within each project I created tasks and then put them in my diary. I began to realise that if I did not schedule the tasks then they simply wouldn’t get done.

The first day was hard! I had decided to work on my new 30 Day Mind Diet programme and only that for the whole day. I knew that I also had other tasks in my list for other projects and that there would be interruptions from social media, emails and texts but I wanted to really focus on getting my set tasks done.

The interruptions were the worst bit – the temptation to stop working and check Facebook notifications or emails was tough! I had to actually turn off the sound on my phone and put it out of sight so I couldn’t see the flashing notification light.

As I wrote my new programme I kept having flashes of creativity and other ideas and the temptation to go and do something about those was over-powering as well. I had to rein myself in and simply write down any thoughts with the promise that I would look at them later.

I, thankfully, had the foresight in my daily planning to allow myself some breaks and some “switching” time. What I mean by that is that I scheduled in the time during my lunch break to check my social media, my emails and my texts. I gave myself permission to do that so that I wouldn’t sit wondering about them all afternoon!

What I found the hardest was to not immediately jump on to something that had come in by email or text. I had a few client enquiries by email so normally I would have dropped everything and got straight back to them. I decided that today would be different. I noted down the people I needed to get back to and I added a task to the end of my day – reply to client emails. I then got back to my original plan.

By the end of the first day of “single tasking” I had almost completed my entire programme. I was ecstatic and it really hammered it home to me that by focusing on one thing at a time you really can get a lot done. The feeling of satisfaction the next day when I finished the tasks on that project was amazing!

By waiting to the end of the day before replying to all the client emails meant that I was able to consolidate the time into half an hour and I answered everyone during this time. If I had stopped working and replied to each email as it came in I would have lost about 50 minutes of time!

So the art of getting stuff done is really simple – be disciplined. Stick to the task at hand until you complete it. If it will take several days to complete then break the task into smaller steps and schedule time for those in your diary.

Schedule time for social media, emails and text checking and at all other times turn off the notifications or remove the phone from your desk to help eliminate temptation.

If you have a mountain of tasks to do then start with the lowest hanging fruit. Get the quick stuff off your list first to give you a sense of achievement. That feeling of satisfaction when you tick things off your list really is a great motivator. Sometimes the lowest hanging fruit is also something you have been putting off for a while – if it needs done then get it done!

Schedule time for planning. If your tasks are not in your schedule then they simply won’t get done. You need to discipline yourself to diary things and then tackle them. Only you can do this – you know you are capable!

When tempted to try and multi-task or switch between tasks, remind yourself that you are losing 10 minutes of time each time you do that. So if you task switch 6 times in a day then you have lost an hour!

Ask yourself where you lose most of your time – for me it was switching between links on the web. I would be working on research for a new health programme and suddenly see a link to another site or another programme and I would then be watching a webinar and signing up for free training for something. Before I knew it 3 hours had passed and not a single bit of writing had been done for my own programme. Not good. I also know that I am still a bit of a slave to the Facebook notification light – I am working on that one!

If you need help in prioritising your tasks or if you would like help simply getting into the right mindset about moving from multi-tasking to single-tasking then please do get in touch!

I would love to hear from you – what works for you when you are working on achieving your goals? Where do you procrastinate or lose time? Is there anything I can maybe help you with?

You can leave a comment below or email me – debibarr@rocksnrituals.co.uk. You can also connect with me on Twitter or Facebook.

Let me know what goals you are setting for the first few months of 2017 and what steps you have taken so far!

 

Reiki School Progress Update!

Reiki Healing Love and Light

As many of you know, I revamped my Reiki training structure earlier this year. I made the training process a more comprehensive programme, giving students private one to one sessions, group sessions and workshops instead of just stand-alone classes.

It has been working really well and I am pleased to say that I have taken several new students through Level 1 and Level 2 training so far. Some of these students are intending to work through to Level 3 next year on the programme which is great!

As a result of the success so far, I am opening up registration again for new students. In January I will be offering a fresh programme for Level 1, with a further Level 2 being made available in March and April 2017.

For anyone who has previously done their Level 2 who wishes to move on to Level 3, the Master training programme will also start in January.

Full details are on the website and I really look forward to welcoming more students on to this lovely training package in the new year.

If Reiki has been calling to you or if you have any questions whatsoever about the programme please get in touch. You can leave a comment below or contact me via the website or Facebook.

Namaste

How to get what you really want

Vision Board

5 steps to getting what you really want!

If you are drawn to this post then you are most likely looking for something in your life. Perhaps you want more money, a loving relationship, more control in your life, better health, weight loss or simply to feel more important.

No matter what it is that you want to achieve, the process is always the same.

Step 1 – Get Clear

What is it that you REALLY want? You need to be specific here. Being vague will only lead to vague results or a lack of progress. For example – rather than saying “I want to lose weight” – be specific – “I want to lose 3lbs by Christmas and then 7lbs by the end of January”. That is a better goal because you can quantify it.

Step 2 – Imagine it

How would it change your life?

Take a moment to look at your goal. If you achieved it, how would it impact your life? How would your life change as a result? You may need to sit with this for a while and really consider the options and the possibilities. Be realistic with how your life may change – do you still want it to happen?

OK visualise it in its entirety. Design a vision board using photos, inspirational quotes and colours to make you feel inspired and empowered to move towards this vision of your ideal life.

Step 3 – Plan it

Decide on the steps you need to take in order to make your dream a reality.

You can do anything you want to do – you just need to take the first step and begin to CREATE. You may not necessarily feel like you are a creative person but we are all capable of creating our lives. You create your own reality every day by the thoughts you have and the way you perceive the world around you. Be creative with your thinking – check in with your inner sat nav and your intuition. You have the power within you to make the changes but you need to take action!

When you make your plan, break your goal down into smaller manageable chunks. If you have lots of goals then pick one and work on it the whole way through rather than switching between several plans.

Step 4 – Take Action!

So you have clearly visualised what you want to achieve and you have broken it down into steps and processes. It is time to put your plan into action. Your actions may be things like researching online, reading self-help books, going to an exercise class, going shopping for healthy food, making an appointment with a financial advisor, booking a relaxation session to help you start from a place of calm … just get started!

Step 5 – Mind your Vibes!

You are giving out an energy vibration 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Your vibration affects you and all those around you, just as you are affected by everyone around you too. When you find yourself stuck in a rut it is easy to get down on yourself and feel negative. This has the effect of attracting more low vibrational energy to you which in turn perpetuates the problem and things seem to get worse.

When working through life changes it is vitally important to stay mindful of the vibe you are giving out. Our world works by resonating to the energy vibe we are transmitting. If we are positive and happy then things seem to go our way and we feel happy and content. When we are down then things get on top of us. There are lots of ways you can keep your energy vibrations up – smile, laugh, play, be creative, connect with your people, get outside, eat healthy food, talk to a friend, relax and unwind!

Want some help?

On Saturday 7th January 2017 I am running a morning dedicated to working with the Law of Attraction and Vision Boards in order to help people get clear on their goals and learn how to manifest them. Together we will work on setting a clear intention for the coming year and then will further break that overall vision down into a 30 day plan to kick start the year. If you would like to come along then please book your place via the website.

If you are not in my local area (Bangor, Northern Ireland) but would be interested in receiving help and advice in this area then please get in touch using the form below. I am currently working on a new suite of services which will deliver results fast for those who are prepared to put the effort in. These services can be delivered remotely as well as in person so distance is no barrier. Leave me your contact details and I will follow up with you within the next few days – no obligation at all just a follow up email!

I’d love to hear from you – let me know what goals and plans you are putting in place for 2017. You can leave a comment below or connect with me via Facebook.

If you have an extra 5 minutes I would also love it if you could answer a few short questions for me in relation to where you find yourself in your life. These questions have been put together to help me design the very best service for my clients so if you could spare a moment to answer them I would be really grateful! You can access the short survey here.

Namaste


Working with Angelic Energy

Guardian Angel helping hand

Working with angels is something that everyone can do. Each of us has our own Guardian Angel who protects and guides us through our human life. Often we talk about our departed loved ones being our guardian angels but angels have never incarnated into human form. Our departed loved ones may choose to become one of our spirit guides but they are not the same as angels.

The word angel is derived from the Greek word “angelos” which means Messenger. Angels are messengers from God and their purpose is to serve, protect and encourage us to grow and expand our spiritual awareness. They are found in all religious texts and you don’t even have to be religious to connect with angels.

Angels radiate pure love and light. You can connect to your angel simply by asking them to come close and make their presence felt. Angels cannot interfere in our lives without our consent so you need to ask your angel to step forward and communicate with you. Angels will communicate through subtle means – they know that if they were to appear in front of us in all their glory we would most likely be too shocked to move! Hearing your angel’s guidance can therefore be difficult to begin with. As humans we want instant gratification and obvious tangible evidence that we are not making things up in our heads. However, angels communicate by using signs such as feathers, an overheard conversation, song lyrics or other subtle things like that.

You can also work with Archangels. Archangels are much more powerful than your guardian angel and they each have their own speciality. If you are interested in angels you will most likely be familiar with Archangel Michael, the protector and Archangel Raphael, the healer. There are many archangels and armies of angels. They are all available to help us with our lives and our health. They encourage us to eat more healthily and take better care of ourselves. They won’t do things for us – we are in ultimate control and they will only guide and suggest or illuminate paths for us to take – it is up to us to recognise the signs and take inspired action.

How to connect with the angels

Meditation

The best way to connect with the angelic realm is through meditation. It helps if you can try and keep to a regular routine in order to establish a clear connection with the angels. You could see it as making an appointment for a chat. You wouldn’t like it if someone made a date with you and then didn’t show up or if they showed up but weren’t interested in listening to you, so bear that in mind when communicating with the angels.

If you can, you should set up a special area where you can go to connect with the angels. It may be an outside space or somewhere inside the house where you won’t be disturbed. You may also find it helpful to put some crystals, angel figurines or feathers on a special table and create your own angel altar.

If you are not used to meditating it can seem like an impossible task to quiet your mind and allow the angels to come close. My advice to you would be to stop trying to silence your mind. Your mind exists so that it can think. Just like cars use the road, your thoughts use your mind. There is no point trying to silence the thoughts just like there is no point trying to run about on the road trying to direct the traffic.

Make yourself comfortable and wear clothing that isn’t tight or restrictive. Take a little while to settle down into your body. Start to notice your breath – you don’t have to breathe in any specific way – just notice how you are breathing. You may find that as you bring your awareness to your breath that it naturally starts to slow down and become deeper but it is OK if it doesn’t.

Your thoughts may appear to run wild for a little while. Don’t get angry or frustrated just notice that they are there. It is sometimes like taming a wild horse. You need to give it plenty of rope and plenty of space and then gradually rein it in. So give your mind the same deal – allow the thoughts to be there. Acknowledge them. You may even like to say to yourself – “Yes, I hear you and I will deal with that later”. You will find that your mind then starts to calm down and you get a bit of space between the thoughts.

With regular practice this process of calming the mind and becoming peaceful will be quicker and your mind will recognise that this is your special time where it has to be quieter than normal. This is all part of the mind training that is required when learning to meditate.

Once you feel calm and relaxed, ask your angels to come close. They cannot intervene in our lives without our consent so you need to ask.

Ask the angels to approach you and make you aware of their presence. You may feel a light breeze, smell a lovely scent or feel a gentle touch. Don’t worry if you don’t feel anything at first – this process can take some time. Angels operate on such a high vibration that we need to raise our vibration in order to communicate effectively.

You can ask your angels for guidance or for healing and then trust that they will do what is needed. At this point you need to simply leave it with them and then be vigilant for signs in your life.

After meditation it is always important to ground yourself, so take time to come back to the physical world. Be aware of your contact with the Earth. Have something to eat or drink. Make sure you are fully present before going about your daily business.

Use Angel Cards

Angel Cards are a wonderful way of making contact with the angels. There are a multitude of different decks available and you should choose one that you like.

You can dedicate the deck if you wish by holding it in your hands and asking that the angels use the cards to give you guidance.

When doing a reading for yourself, take the cards and hold them in your hands for a moment. Ask that your angels come close and provide the answers you are seeking. Shuffle the cards and think of your question (if you have one). Draw a card or more than one if you wish and read the message.

The Angel Cards are easier to use than the Tarot as they have their meanings written on them. The cards will always be appropriate and positive. You will find that the angels will sometimes ensure that you keep getting the same card – usually if they are trying to get your attention!

How angels communicate with us.

Angels communicate in a variety of ways. If we are open enough to receive it, they will communicate directly with us. Some people are naturally clairvoyant and will clearly see angels, others are clairaudient and will clearly hear angels and others are clairsentient and will feel the angels when they are near.

For most of us we need to take time to develop our ability to see, hear or feel the angels as we have come to heavily rely on our 5 physical senses only. In these instances the angels will communicate indirectly. For example, a song may play on the radio that has the message they need to get to you, or a book may fall off a shelf in a bookstore and be the one you need to read. They also leave feathers as calling cards or coins. Sometimes when they are close you can get a wonderful scent in the air and other people report hearing a heavenly choir or music when angels are close.

Sometimes angels will also call out your name. You will often hear this just as you are waking up or going to sleep and it sounds like your own voice on some occasions. Angels will also communicate by sending you signs like repeating numbers, for example 11:11 or 22:22.

Would you like to learn more?

I regularly run Angel Workshops from my home in Bangor. The next one is scheduled for Saturday 10th December 2016. Why not come along and spend a morning with the angels?

I would love to hear your angel stories – please leave me a comment below or get in touch to share your stories or to ask a question about the angels.

Namaste

Crystals – Powerhouses of Healing Energy

crystals for healing

Our world is rapidly changing and quite often we feel the need to find more peace and harmony in our increasingly hectic lives. A fantastic way to do this is to harness the power and beauty of the mineral kingdom.

The natural world is a delicate ecosystem where everything is balanced and inter-connected. If we upset the balance of any of nature’s kingdoms we end up suffering from our actions.

The human body is the same – we are not just a physical body – we are much more than that. We are made up from energy and our mind, body and spirit are connected – just as we are also connected with the Earth and the natural world around us.

Everything in the universe is interconnected, from the smallest grain of sand on Earth to the largest planet. We are all made of the same atoms and minerals. Crystals take millions of years to form within the mineral kingdom, soaking up the subtle energies and vibrations of the Earth and the rays of the sun. It is therefore reasonable to assume that gemstones and crystals which come from the Earth can work with our bodies on a sub-atomic or spiritual level to help re-balance or heal.

Human beings have always been fascinated by many beautiful and mysterious gemstones and crystals. These stones, which form in the heart of the Earth, hold special significance for many and can be seen in lots of ancient cultures as amulets, power stones and other special adornments.

Remember that most crystals were made by geological action over hundreds of thousands of years. Many of these crystals have remained hidden deep in the Earth before being mined, shaped, polished and presented for sale. When you hold a crystal in your hand therefore remember that you are holding a piece of the Earth which is thousands of years old.

How are they used?

Decoration & Jewellery – because crystals are so pretty it should come as no surprise that they are often fashioned into jewellery. Royalty use crystals to adorn their crowns and palaces. Diamonds, emeralds and sapphires are the most well-known stones for jewellery but semi-precious stones are also used.

Protection & Amulets – Talismans and amulets were typical in ancient cultures – for example the Egyptians and Romans used them to confer protection on their people and rulers. Today we often carry crystals for protection to help us guard against psychic attack or to repel negativity.

Attraction – crystals can be placed in the home to attract abundance. They can be carried for the same purpose. They can be used to attract love, peace and harmony. Different crystals are used to attract different things – for example, citrine is used for abundance whereas rose quartz would be used to attract love.

Healing – of all the things that crystals can be used for, healing is perhaps the greatest. Science has allowed us to understand today that everything in the universe is formed from energy and that all things therefore vibrate with energy. This includes crystals. Science has further proved that certain forms of energy can alter the vibrational resonance of other forms of energy. This is the concept behind using crystals for healing.

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Would you like to learn more?

Come along to my Crystal Healing Workshop on Saturday 4th February 2017 from 10am to learn more. Together we will look at choosing crystals, caring for them and programming them for healing. We will meditate together with our crystals and practice healing grids and much more!

To book your place please visit the website.

Can’t make it to the workshop? Why not check out my latest online course offering called Get Your Zen On – it has 2 modules dedicated entirely to crystals and crystal healing. You can enrol on the course by clicking here to go directly to the training platform.

I’d love to hear from you – let me know what your favourite crystals are and what you use them for! Leave me a comment below or connect with me via Facebook.

To learn more about Rocks n Rituals why not download my Client Information Pack which is full of information about the services I offer.

Namaste

5 Steps to Inner Peace

Peaceful girl

Our lives are so busy these days. We are always rushing about and being bombarded with news, information and energy from all over the place!

Your phone is probably never out of your hand for long – are you a slave to the notification ping too?

Anxiety and stress is becoming a major problem for many people in our society. I have suffered from it myself and know how debilitating it can be. As we approach the festive period stress levels can rise further and often the holidays become a time of illness and worry for many.

I thought I would put together my 5 steps which helped me and which help my clients reduce their stress and anxiety levels in order to reach a state of inner peace.

Step 1 – Set a positive intention at the start of your day

It is important that you start your day with a positive mindset. I will often talk to my clients about the importance of meditation and intention setting. I know that time is of the essence in the morning and that you are probably saying “I don’t have time for that!”

Trust me – you can find a couple of minutes in the morning to set your intention. This is my routine: – The alarm goes off and I usually hit the snooze button to be completely honest! During the 5 minute “snooze” I begin to formulate my plan for the day. I think about the things I have to do and I see them running smoothly in my mind. When the alarm goes again I make a conscious effort to get up and smile – I am alive, I am able to get out of bed and I have a warm home. I make the bed and head for the shower.

I use the time in the shower to be mindful. I notice the smell and feeling of the shower gel and shampoo. I intend that any negative energy is being washed off. In fact what I recommend is that you jump into the shower while it is still freezing before it warms up – it not only wakes you up but it shocks any negative energy out of your aura and kick-starts your day!

So you see – I haven’t done anything that different but what I have done is set a positive intention for my day and it allows me to start as I mean to go on. It really makes a difference as you attract the energy vibrations you give out – so why not try this and see how you get on?

Step 2 – Get some fresh air

Getting outside is really good for the soul. It doesn’t matter if you don’t live in the countryside – you can still benefit from being outdoors. Look up to the sky – feel the expansive view of the sky soak into you. If you are lucky enough to live near the sea or a forest park then make a conscious effort to get out for a walk at some point in your day. Early morning walks are great for the soul and it is so quiet you can really tune into your body and be mindful as you walk. Evening walks are also lovely as you wind down from your day.

If you really can’t get out for a walk then make an effort to go outside on your lunch-break or at some point in the day and simply take 5-10 deep breaths in the fresh air. I promise you will feel better for it!

Focusing on the breath really helps in general to lower stress levels but when you add in fresh air and natural surroundings you increase the benefit ten-fold!

Step 3 – Nourish your body & soul

Your body is a wonderful machine which keeps you alive every day. Nourish it – put good healthy food and drink into it. Look after your body – listen to it. When you eat or drink something that doesn’t agree with you, your body will let you know. You may feel tired, sluggish or have cramps or bloating. Listen to this and swap out the foods that irritate you. This is not a lecture about healthy eating but you should be mindful of what you put into your body. Love and respect yourself enough to put good, nourishing food in rather than junk and your body will repay you with good health and vitality. This helps your body move away from a constant stress response and in turn helps you to relax and feel good.

It is important to nourish your soul too. Do things that you enjoy doing and make time to allow yourself to do so! Too often we are all work and no play – you need to adjust the work/life balance to allow yourself time to nourish the soul. Read books, be creative (cook, paint, garden .. whatever works for you!), sing, dance, find your inner light and let it shine!

Tend your mind garden – stop watching the news and listening to the doom and gloom on social media. There is so much good in the world but all we ever hear about on the news and in the papers is the negative stuff. Start reading positive news stories and turn off the toxic mainstream feed!

Step 4 – Be grateful

Gratitude is a real vibration raiser. By becoming mindful of all the blessings in your life you naturally reduce your stress levels. Every night I spend time writing in my diary about my day and I also keep a gratitude journal. In my gratitude book I write 5 or 6 things that happened that day that I am thankful for. It may be a word of thanks for the driver who let me out into traffic, a thank you for the smile from a stranger which brightened my day or it may be a word of gratitude that my difficult day ended and I was able to lie on the sofa in my PJs later!

There are so many things to be grateful for – clean running water, modern appliances which save you time, your kids, your family, your partner, your amazing human body, the blue sky, the rain, the sun …. you get the idea!

Try it for 2 weeks and see how you get on!

Step 5 – Listen to your gut and learn to say no when you need to

This one is the most important – how often have you had a gut feeling and then ignored it and wished you hadn’t? Finding your inner peace is all about getting into the flow of life. Learning to say no without guilt when needs be. Learning to trust your intuition and going with your gut reactions and feelings.

This one takes a bit of time and practice. In order to hear the intuition you need to become mindful and quiet. By following the 4 steps above you will be well on your way to doing that.

Make a conscious effort to notice your gut reaction to things. If someone suggests something or asks you to do something and you feel really off about it then say no. We all find it hard to say no to people but it is vital that you protect your energy levels, health and happiness by saying no to things that you really don’t want to do. Stop people pleasing and learn to assert yourself by respecting your own values and opinions.

I hope these 5 steps have helped you to at least start thinking about how to lower your stress levels in order to find some inner peace. I am running a stress management workshop on Saturday 26th November in Bangor, County Down where you can learn more. If you are in the local area and would like to come along then just get in touch! You can book your space via the website.

I would love to hear from you – how do you currently manage your stress levels? Do you need any help with it? I work remotely with people as well as in person. Reiki healing energy can be sent over distance and I regularly coach clients via Skype so distance is no barrier- get in touch, I’d love to connect with you!

Let go and flow!

Let go!

You hear it all the time these days – just let go and get into the flow. But how exactly do you do that and what does it even mean?

This has been coming up a lot lately with my clients so I thought I would write about it to try and help anyone else that is struggling with the concept.

I work with people from all walks of life but one thing tends to be common to all – they want to improve their life in some way. They perhaps want to work on healing an emotional issue that is holding them back or sometimes it is a physical pain that ails them. In some cases they come to me to learn Reiki in an attempt to adjust their path in life and to help them change things that are not working for them.

At some stage in their development and healing process something will crop up that feels like a brick wall. It has happened to me numerous times too.

You are on a roll and think that things are all going really well and then seemingly from out of nowhere you come up against an old memory or emotion that has been buried deep for years. You may even have encountered it before and thought it was dealt with but then it resurfaces and you feel back to square one.

How do you deal with such things? How do you learn to let go and release the emotion or memory to aide healing?

There is no right or wrong way and this is simply my opinion and advice based on my own development and years of therapeutic practice with my clients.

When a tough memory or emotion comes up the temptation is to try and ignore it or stuff it back down where it came from. For example when a complete feeling of sadness perhaps comes over you from out of the blue you may find that you start doing all manner of things to distract yourself from feeling the pain. You’ll suddenly develop an urge to clean the house from top to bottom or to listen to loud music or to text someone or scroll through Facebook – anything to distract yourself from feeling the emotion.

What you should do is allow the feeling to arise. Take time to sit with it. Allow it to wash over you like a wave in the ocean. Emotions are energy in motion – they need to be able to move through you. By trying to stuff them down and ignore them you are simply damming up the flow and eventually the dam will burst under the pressure.

Now you may be thinking “Oh no way – I simply can’t bear to do that!” I understand that feeling. It is a normal human response – we are naturally designed to move away from pain towards pleasure so to actually welcome a painful memory or emotion and allow it to wash over you may seem like complete madness!

What will happen though is that, yes, you will feel the emotion washing over you. You may even sob and cry as it does so. You may go quiet for a spell and need some time out. All of that is OK. Sitting with the memory or emotion and allowing it time to flow through you is all you need to do. It will naturally begin to flow away and this is the release you have been looking for. At that point then you will feel much better – you may find that a deep peace or inner happiness starts to emerge because you have released the sadness.

If you can, give yourself plenty of time to work through this process. If needed go for healing – have Reiki, work with crystals, talk it over with a trusted friend or counsellor – but don’t bury it.

The more you practice this the easier it becomes to sit with uncomfortable truths, memories or emotions. You learn to sit with them and acknowledge them and the lessons they bring.

Sitting in contemplation without fear of feeling the emotion is the first step to learning the lesson and moving forward. After the sadness comes happiness. After the pain comes relief. You have learned to let go and flow.

Letting go and getting into the flow is also about letting go of the need to control everything. Emotions are scary because they are uncontrollable – that is good! Life is not about controlling every last little detail – that just causes stress and anxiety. When you learn to let go of the need to control and learn to sit with any difficulties that arise, you truly learn to get into the flow of life – and that is where the magic begins!

I would love to hear from you! Let me know how you let things go and how you deal with emotions as they come up. If you need help or want advice just get in touch. I offer distant healing services as well as in person sessions so don’t hesitate to contact me or leave a comment below.